Our country has been plagued with several disasters in the last few years. There was the Joplin, Missouri tornado in May of 2011, we’ve had numerous catastrophic wildfires, Hurricane Sandy tore the east coast apart in October of 2012, and then there was that day…
I remember that horrible day…December 14th, 2012…The Sandy Hook Elementary School tragedy. My eyes filled with tears as I watched this horrific event unfold on television. How could this happen? How could we ever let anything like this happen?
Three days later, I found myself in front of 400 children doing an author visit at a different elementary school that was thousands of miles away. When the kindergartners and first graders walked into the gym, sat down on the floor, and looked up at me, I lost it. I couldn’t talk. I couldn’t even breathe! My heart felt like it had a hole in it…a big, empty hole. Our world can be so cruel. I made eye contact with one of the teachers. Her eyes screamed “There’s a hole in my heart too!”
At that moment, I knew I had to find a way to reach out. Parents needed to know what to say to their kids and how to say it. Teachers needed to know what to do, what to say, and how to act.
When a disaster occurs, it affects everyone at different levels of intensity, much like the ripple effect when a rock is thrown into water. With natural disasters, most humans feel responsible for helping. We empathize and then focus our efforts on comforting and rebuilding. But we realize deep down that what happened could not have been prevented. Sandy Hook was different…disasters caused by man happen by choice.
The Ant Hill Disaster
Ants are masters at working together and rebuilding. Also, ant hills can be destroyed by humans as well as by storms, so the metaphor applies to both natural disasters and those caused by man. By writing this book, I could demonstrate empathetic understanding for children, as well as model positive parent and teaching strategies.
But this book would be very different from the others. All of my other stories were proactive. The Ant Hill Disaster is reactive…reactive to the hole inside my heart…inside all of our hearts.
After the Ant Hill School is destroyed, a little boy ant is afraid to go back to school. His mom caringly explains to him that sometimes things happen in life that we have no control over, but we have to find a way to keep living and growing.
The Ant Hill Disaster thoughtfully addresses fears associated with both natural and those caused by man. It models effective parenting and teaching responses. This book can help assure children that through love, empathetic understanding, preparation, and effective communication, they can stand strong, even in the midst of uncontrollable events.
When disasters, both natural and man-made occur, parents are faced with the challenge of discussing tragic events with their children. Although these might be difficult conversations, they are important and necessary. Always remember, there is no “right” or “wrong” way to talk to your child about traumatic events. At the end of the Ant Hill Disaster, I included tips for parents to help them talk about tragic events with their children. You can download a page of these tips on the right. Always remember: you are your child’s coping instructor!
I had the great honor of reading the Ant Hill Disaster over the phone to Michelle Gay who lost her 6-year old daughter in the Sandy Hook tragedy. She graciously agreed to write the forward of the book and I want to share her thoughts with you.
Foreword to The Ant Hill Disaster by Michele Gay
On the evening of December 14, 2012, my husband and I were faced with the unimaginable task of telling our older daughters of our family’s loss. Our precious daughter and their little sister, Josephine, had perished in the tragedy at her school, Sandy Hook Elementary.
Though a mother and former elementary school teacher, I grasped for words that could explain the events of that morning... but there were no words.
What I did manage to say was that I knew our Joey was in heaven and we would find a way to carry on together. That we loved them, and so did she, that we would never allow her sparkling personality and loving spirit to be lost in this tragedy.
We came together with family, friends, neighbors, and our community to defy this tragedy with our love.
In the weeks following, we sent our daughters back to school, confident in the love and support they would receive in our community. I volunteered to stay. I wanted to deliver a message: that we were meant to carry on together. And so we began our journey.
Julia Cook’s Ant Hill Disaster honors this journey out of loss and into hope. She lights the path for the youngest of readers with words, colors, and a familiar setting that young children understand and need. Her adorable characters model team work, empathy, and compassion in a child-friendly story that may translate to a tragic event in their own community or another, man-made or natural.
Ant Hill Disaster is a message of hope and love that will touch and inspire young children and the adults who love them.
Mother of Josephine Gay, A Sandy Hook Angel
Co-Founder of Safe and Sound: A Sandy Hook Initiative
Words to Comfort Us from The Ant Hill Disaster
“We breathe in and breathe out, we hold onto each other.
We shed a lot of tears, and we love one another.
We’ve all come together as a strong team of ONE,
We’ve rebuilt our lives, and we’re get things done!
They say that when change happens, it makes everyone grow.
Our pain is never forgotten, this we all know.
But together we somehow are learning to cope.
Because disasters will NEVER diminish our hope!”
To me, it is an absolute must to align the information contained in my books with the best research-based topic information available. This led me to contact the ALICE Training Institute. For more information on disaster preparedness visit the ALICE website: www.alicetraining.com.
Julia is nationally recognized as an award-winning children’s book author and parenting expert. She holds a Master's Degree in Elementary School Counseling, and while serving as a school counselor, she often used children’s books to enhance her classroom lessons. Julia has written dozens of books that teach students to become life-long problem solvers and enable them to deal with difficult situations in their lives. She enjoys visiting schools and talking with kids; in fact, she's done over 800 school visits! You can learn more at her website, www.juliacookonline.com.